What is Conflict?

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by Roscoe LarRett Morris, I

Conflict happens

When we are at odds with another person over what we think, want, or do. Conflict can involve everything from small disagreements to major disputes, and it can result in not only hurt feelings but a:so in damaged property.

Conflict begins when we don’t get what we want. The conflicts we experience don’t happen in a vacuum. They don’t appear from nowhere.

Living in the Western World, we are most likely bombarded al] day long by messages, texts, and emails, and they are 100% all about “self’.

Life becomes all about “me.” My wants, my desires, and my needs are much more important than what others value.

As parents, we know that children absorb this  one message all day long, They hear;

  • I have the right to whatever I want!
  • I have the right to have it my way!
  • I deserve it!”

If this idea sinks in, the idea that I deserve whatever I want, whenever I want it, I am going to get
mad when I don’t get it.

If I am not getting what I want, I might start punishing others for it.

That is where conflict starts. We fight because “I’m not getting what I want.” James 4:1-2 points out the source of conflict when it says,

“Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members? You lust and do not have. You murder and covet’ and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask. “

Think about what bad results you have seen from conflict?
What good results could you enjoy by working toward peace?

Peace is worth our greatest effort. The Bible tens us that we should be, “Endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4′,3).
The Greek word for endeavor in this verse is translated “making every effort,” which means to strive eagerly… earnestly, diligently.

It’s a word that a trainer of gladiators might have used when he sent men to fight to the death in the coliseum: “Make every effort to stay alive today!”

God’s peace is worth that life-and death effort. If we want to enter into all the peace God has for us, we have to give it our all. As we learn God’s design for true peace throughout the rest our journey in life, may we find the peace of God that we all so intensely desire,